On your first point - if that were the case, she could have offered a tip, which is what other people have done and which dad has also politely refused. A nice thought, but she was definitely trying to be "charitable" but not paying attention to details (ie the rolex) and to the etiquette of giving.
On your second point - you're right insofar as people should be judged by their actions, not by the car they drive. I would extend your point to say that perhaps the person as a whole should not even be judged, but their actions alone (and then in constellation) should be considered and judged. In this way, you can avoid judging a person based on too little information. I think this is what you were saying, anyway, right? It's very very hard to put into practice, isn't it? I think we all struggle with it, those of us who even try.
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Date: April 29th, 2003 12:19 pm (UTC)On your first point - if that were the case, she could have offered a tip, which is what other people have done and which dad has also politely refused. A nice thought, but she was definitely trying to be "charitable" but not paying attention to details (ie the rolex) and to the etiquette of giving.
On your second point - you're right insofar as people should be judged by their actions, not by the car they drive. I would extend your point to say that perhaps the person as a whole should not even be judged, but their actions alone (and then in constellation) should be considered and judged. In this way, you can avoid judging a person based on too little information. I think this is what you were saying, anyway, right? It's very very hard to put into practice, isn't it? I think we all struggle with it, those of us who even try.
Heh. You got me on a deep-thoughts day. Poor you.