Why? Why? Why?
Oct. 18th, 2002 09:16 amI got an e-mail today from an ex boyfriend to whom I have not spoken in maybe 5 years. And that last interchange was not even my choice. (Long story short, he made an unannounced visit to town after being gone for over a year and was somehow surprised when I didn't fling myself into his arms. Hence his use of the word "snub".)
I have some level of confidence that my more recent ex boyfriend will never write or call me in a drunken haze - he'll probably never write or call me, which is just fine by me.
But why this guy decided to pop up again is a mystery.
Well, I have few secrets, and this is certainly not one of them, so I figured I'd share it with you guys and see what you think - I am going to lock this one out to non-live journal users, because I don't want him landing on this if he finds it through Yahoo. *late edit: I decided to unlock this. I see no real reason to hide this - HE'S the one who wrote to me while drunk. I have no shame here)
"Hi Brony,
Its been a long time and I am not sure why I am writing you right now. I think it may have something to do with booze and insomnia.
Do you know that Grant and Karin finally got married this summer? They asked about you and that got me thinking, which is always dangerous. I typed your name into yahoo and it gave me your school site which gave me your email. I had not worked up the nerve to write you until just now, but like I said, it might be the booze. I figured you might not be pleased to hear from me since our last conversation went so ... poorly.
But you look good and I am glad that you got a career in biology. "Graduate Research Assistant" sounds like a decent gig. Are you going for your PhD? How is your life?
Feel free to snub me. I probably deserve it.
But I never threw away all the letters you wrote me. I still look at them from time to time and I think of you fondly.
Chris"
So my internal debate is bouncing between two options: 1) ignore the email and "snub" him as he expects me to do or 2) be the too-nice self (see Post from Oct. 8) that I am and write back to him, simply stating that perhaps it would be better if he tried writing to me while sober.
Help? Suggestions?
Another late edit: My last words to this person were (and I quote), "I have a life to live and things to do and I am living and doing quite well without you. Please leave me alone". I guess he forgot that little request of mine.
Arg.
I have some level of confidence that my more recent ex boyfriend will never write or call me in a drunken haze - he'll probably never write or call me, which is just fine by me.
But why this guy decided to pop up again is a mystery.
Well, I have few secrets, and this is certainly not one of them, so I figured I'd share it with you guys and see what you think - I am going to lock this one out to non-live journal users, because I don't want him landing on this if he finds it through Yahoo. *late edit: I decided to unlock this. I see no real reason to hide this - HE'S the one who wrote to me while drunk. I have no shame here)
"Hi Brony,
Its been a long time and I am not sure why I am writing you right now. I think it may have something to do with booze and insomnia.
Do you know that Grant and Karin finally got married this summer? They asked about you and that got me thinking, which is always dangerous. I typed your name into yahoo and it gave me your school site which gave me your email. I had not worked up the nerve to write you until just now, but like I said, it might be the booze. I figured you might not be pleased to hear from me since our last conversation went so ... poorly.
But you look good and I am glad that you got a career in biology. "Graduate Research Assistant" sounds like a decent gig. Are you going for your PhD? How is your life?
Feel free to snub me. I probably deserve it.
But I never threw away all the letters you wrote me. I still look at them from time to time and I think of you fondly.
Chris"
So my internal debate is bouncing between two options: 1) ignore the email and "snub" him as he expects me to do or 2) be the too-nice self (see Post from Oct. 8) that I am and write back to him, simply stating that perhaps it would be better if he tried writing to me while sober.
Help? Suggestions?
Another late edit: My last words to this person were (and I quote), "I have a life to live and things to do and I am living and doing quite well without you. Please leave me alone". I guess he forgot that little request of mine.
Arg.