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[bronwynrh]

So Jeff just gave Samuel a haircut - a REAL haircut, not the wimpy trim I did a few months ago.

I cried like a baby for an hour.

?!?!?

Somebody help me understand so I can help Jeff understand. All I can think to say is that he's my baby, and it breaks my heart to have him looking ready for kindergarten. Thank goodness Samuel's in bed, because just looking at him makes me break down all over again.

In other news, after feeling fine for a few days, I was stupid enough to think I was in the clear. Stupid me. I'm back to puking every day now. And on top of that, I've been having Braxton-Hicks contractions. At 21 weeks! *boggles*

We had the u/s last week and baby looks beautiful. We think it's a girl, and don't plan to find out the truth prior to delivery. I was told the placenta is low, which has me freaked right the hell out. That little bugger better migrate up, because mamma wants a natural birth, and a c-section is pretty much the polar frickin' opposite! Seriously, the thought of all those drugs and my history of adverse reactions... nightmares!

I gotta go spend time with Jeff so he knows I'm not angry with him... although I may be, a little. He doesn't understand and frankly, I don't either. Help?

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[travellight.livejournal.com]

I don't understand it, but I think it's normal. My parents Literally almost got divorced over my father getting my hair cut when I was 4. Prior to the cut, it was to my waist and I wore it in a knot on top of my head. That was the last time he ever so much as had my bangs trimmed.

Can you do something about your placenta?

[bramey.livejournal.com]

At least my brand of nuts is normal.

Can't do anything about the placenta but hope and wait for a second u/s in 9 weeks to see if it's moved. Apparently, as the uterus grows, it tends to pull the placenta northward. That's what we're hoping for.

[travellight.livejournal.com]

I have friends who are equally wiggy about their childrens' hair.

Before Daddy had my hair cut, I cut my bangs with my mother's cuticle scissors and it nearly caused an international incident. I'm still not sure if it was because I cut my hair or because I used her good cuticle scissors, but it still comes up from time to time.

I think it's just a mother and child hair thing that doesn't ever go away.

[kendokamel.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

Well, I can't help with the getting Jeff to understand... but as one who once committed the same sin, here's an amusing hair-cutting anecdote...

When I was going on 5 and my sisters were 2, I convinced Cindy to let me cut her hair. (I had a teensy pair of scissors that had come with a little Hello Kitty notepad and tiny pencil set, and I even demonstrated on a plush toy that it was totally safe and fun!)

I was all proud - because my aunt was a hairdresser, and I wanted to be Just Like Her - and I showed the results to my mom, who was on the phone. She said, "I gotta go!" and started yelling at me!

She saved the hair in a box, labeled "Cindy's Baby Curls".

She blamed me for Cindy having straight hair instead of curly. Because a haircut at 24 months TOTALLY trumps genetics. o_O

[bramey.livejournal.com]

Well, that gave me a chuckle... my heart broke in part because Samuel's curls are gone!

Jeff keeps reminding me that they'll grow back, but that doesn't help much.

[kendokamel.livejournal.com]

Well, just remember - if he was anything like me, he thought he was being super helpful.

*hugs*

[adaon.livejournal.com]

It's totally nuts, but normal.

My friend cried when her first kid got a real hair cut too. She blamed it on hormones, but her husband gave me suspicious looks for a few days.

When is the new baby due?

I can't believe you're married and with two kids! It seems like just yesterday we were complaining about being unable to find good men, and would we ever graduate??

Well okay I still haven't found the right man, I guess, but look at us now!

[bramey.livejournal.com]

We've come a long way, baby!

Baby's due October 15, but I suspect (s)he will arrive early. And yes, it's insane. It boggles my mind whenever I think about what's happened in the past 5 years.

As to the crying, I cried again this morning when I went to wake Samuel. Note to self: don't wear mascara when you're already upset.

Blaming hormones only takes me so far... Knowing what it is doesn't make it hurt less, you know? Ugh!

[journalismgirl.livejournal.com]

What is it with mothers and curls?

[bramey.livejournal.com]

If I try to wax scientific, I'd say it's a consequence of the bonding process. If bonding is based on all the sensations - tactile, visual, olfactory.... then a dramatic change in one of those things is jarring.

And the slight jar turns into outright whiplash if you're already primed by hormones :-/

[tonya.livejournal.com]

I was emotional about Josh's first cut, it makes them look SO grown up, but I didn't cry.

Be warned, the hair will grow back but the curls sometimes go away... that happened to a friend of mine and her son, at least!

I'M SO GLAD YOU DIDN'T FIND OUT THE SEX!! I'll be sending girl vibes even though you didn't do the spoon thing!

[bramey.livejournal.com]

Oh, I hopehopehope the curls come back. He has my hair, which worries me because my hair is rather straight. Jeff had a headful of curls. I kept hoping Sam would have may hair color, but Jeff's curls.

Prolly won't happen, though :)

It was funny, tonya. The one full-frontal shot where we risked seeing everything, the cord was running straight up the middle and obscured the money shot. The baby was active the whole time, so we got to see hands, finger, toes... it was awesome.

[journalismgirl.livejournal.com]

I don't completely understand, not having children, but I suspect it's normal.

My mother almost fired her hairdresser when the hairdresser -- following my mother's orders, mind you -- cut off my "beautiful" (her words) curls ... and they never grew back.

[bramey.livejournal.com]

Yeah, "trim" means something far less dramatic than "cut" in my mind! I'm pretty sure the curls won't come back, but I'll hope anyway.

[dburr13.livejournal.com]

Could it be that part of the cause of your emotional reaction is that your pregnancy boosted hormone levels are messing with your mind?

[bramey.livejournal.com]

Oh, certainly. The problem is that knowing I'm being irrational doesn't make the emotions any less strong :-/

[thatthingido.livejournal.com]

You're a mom. Samuel is your baby. Maybe the haircutting is symbolic of Samuel growing up a little.

Or maybe it's because you're hormonal and stressed. :)

I hope things get better with the pregnancy. The pukiness won't last forever. Focus on the prize.

*hug*

[bramey.livejournal.com]

All of the above, I think :)

As the pregnancy goes along, I just exchange one icky effect for another. It's not always bad, though. I am getting antsy for that prize!